Courage is resistance to fear,
mastery of fear--not absence of fear.
Mark Twain
Fear seems to be everywhere in the 21st century. The world feels perilous, the economy is fluctuating drastically, and things that were once consistent now consistently change.
Fear that stems from present danger is an essential human response. It allows for immediate self-protection and increases awareness of potential dangers so that you can safeguard yourself and those you love. Fear becomes toxic, however, when it makes you feel out of control and overwhelms your ability to think and respond to situations wisely.
Although many frightening aspects of today’s world are beyond your command, you can plan for your own safety. True safety grows from a realistic perception of what is actually happening in the external world. Mark Twain said, "I have had a great many troubles, but most of them never happened." Regain a sense of control by taking charge of your life and safety in realistic ways.
Self-Awareness Is the First Step
Recognize and fill your needs. Meditate, breathe, practice yoga, exercise regularly, get enough sleep, eat a balanced diet, relax, make time for play, and change unhealthy behaviors like smoking or overeating.
Think Positively
Many of our fears result from our perceptions about the world--perceptions that stem from our families of origin, past experiences, and the media. Listen to how you talk to yourself (your inner talk or self-talk). If your thoughts are negative, change them--positive attitudes will sustain and strengthen you. Tell yourself that favorable outcomes are possible even when facing adversity. Transform any negative thoughts into constructive and realistic problem-solving ideas. Visualize positive outcomes.
Honor Your Intuition
Joseph Campbell stated, "Technology is not going to save us. Our computers, our tools, our machines are not enough. We have to rely on our intuition, our true being." The root of the word intuition--tuere--means "to guard, to protect." Your intuition will signal that danger may be present through messengers such as apprehension, hesitation, suspicion, and anxiety. When these messengers arrive, ask yourself, "Why am I feeling this way?" Your intuition has your best interests at heart. Listen to it.
Having an Important Job to Do Is a Source of Strength
In his book, We Are Not Afraid, Homer Hickam writes, "To defeat fear, it is necessary to be confident of who you are and rooted to something of substance, something good and wholesome and productive." Get involved in some project for the good of your community. Participate in a food or clothing drive. Write a letter to a politician or the media. Learn about and take pride in your community.
Managing Your Time Is a Great Way to Take Control of Your Life
Keep a monthly schedule, and write in your priorities first. Schedule personal time weekly, admit your limits without guilt, say "no" when you need to, and always leave free time in your schedule for the unexpected.
Practical Ways to Take Control and Keep Safe
- Take a self-defense class.
- Stock emergency supplies such as canned goods, bottled water, candles, waterproof matches, blankets, radio, flashlights, batteries, medicines, and first aid kit. Rotate perishable items.
- Keep an emergency contact list.
- As a family, take first aid and CPR classes.
- Practice fire safety in your home; create an escape plan, hold fire drills, and have smoke detectors and a fire extinguisher in easy-to-reach locations.
- Develop a family emergency plan. Include where to meet in case of emergency, and who to call. Pick a friend or relative out of town as a contact person if there should be an emergency in your neighborhood or city.
- Create a strong support network for you and your family.
Empower yourself and your loved ones to let go of unnecessary fear and enjoy life’s beauty and preciousness.
© Harris, Rothenberg International, Inc.
Reviewed 06/10